Things

A generic heading, I agree. Things? What are things? Things are tangible items people feel they need to have. What if you didn't have "things," would you still be the same person? Would you act, dress, talk, sway, dance, move, wish, dream, desire if you didn't have the "things" you loved? Do THINGS make the person? Can you "be" the person you are without THINGS?
I'll dive into my own personality. I dress conservative, I have to match, and I have to feel fierce all at the same time. What kind of person does that make me? Do my clothes and my insistence on dressing to a T define who I am? Without my "things" can I de-value my personality? My clothes are a definition of who I am. BUT they do not DEFINE me. Growing up, I was taught you only get once shot at a first impression. I dress to impress or to intimidate. People see that I dress well and assume I am successful and carry myself a certain way. True. However, there are times when I am not successful and my clothes do not save me. You can put a homeless person in a Gucci suit, but at the end of the day, he or she will still be homeless. People who have tons of money, wearing the most expensive suits can still feel insecure.

My point is this: let your personality shine through your clothes, yet don't let your clothes define who you are. I am confident without my clothes or makeup. I have this confidence because I refuse to let anyone belittle me. Clothes cannot MAKE the person you are. If you truly have the self confidence you wish to shine, LET IT. Clothes are a backup, an enhancement if you will, to who you are. At the end of the day, who you are as a PERSON defines who you are. Just because a person has THINGS does not make he or she a happy person. I would much rather be happy and content with my life then struggle everyday to be an individual trying desperately to prove myself. I have nothing to prove to anyone but myself. I wish people, and girls in particular, would learn to be good internal people.

We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore,
is not an act but a habit.
Aristotle